A couple of months ago I came to the conclusion that my husband was a "no" guy. You know. He starts from what I call "A Place of No" in which his immediate response to any request/question/inquiry is most often answered with "no." Don't get me wrong. This is actually a trait that I completely admire. He is the Yin to my Yang. I'm a "yes" girl. It actually causes me some degree of physical pain to say no. Whether it is to joining a committee, taking on a new job, making plans or anything mundane or even anything life-altering, I have a really, really hard time saying no.
My husband, and now, I've noticed, our oldest son, Tommy are our resident "no" experts. A typical conversation goes, "Tommy, do you want to go to school today?" His response, "no." "Tommy, do you want to have a chocolate chip cookie?" His response, "no." And on, and on, and on. Maybe Joey will be our "yes" kid. We will see. So far this is a man's world at our house (I just live in their world) where Joey's only decipherable word is still DaDa.
My other observation about people who come from a "A Place of No" is that they readily admit it. Test this out. Ask a group of people whether they come from a place of no or a place of yes. The "no" group, in my brief and non-scientific survey, seem to be much more able to admit that they come from a place of no, whereas the "yes" people tend not to be so decisive in identifying themselves in either group. Hmmm....maybe the "yes" people are also the pleasers. Maybe the "no" people are the leaders. The strong ones. Oh, how I admire their ability to say no and move on.
Where do you come from? A place of no? A place of yes?
When he does smile it is a killer....
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My husband, and now, I've noticed, our oldest son, Tommy are our resident "no" experts. A typical conversation goes, "Tommy, do you want to go to school today?" His response, "no." "Tommy, do you want to have a chocolate chip cookie?" His response, "no." And on, and on, and on. Maybe Joey will be our "yes" kid. We will see. So far this is a man's world at our house (I just live in their world) where Joey's only decipherable word is still DaDa.
My other observation about people who come from a "A Place of No" is that they readily admit it. Test this out. Ask a group of people whether they come from a place of no or a place of yes. The "no" group, in my brief and non-scientific survey, seem to be much more able to admit that they come from a place of no, whereas the "yes" people tend not to be so decisive in identifying themselves in either group. Hmmm....maybe the "yes" people are also the pleasers. Maybe the "no" people are the leaders. The strong ones. Oh, how I admire their ability to say no and move on.
Where do you come from? A place of no? A place of yes?
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| Mom! No more photos! |
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| Maybe it's not that he's a "no" kid, but one that is over-photographed? |
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| The full 2-hand coverage. Look at those sweet cousins. |
When he does smile it is a killer....
This is the last week for the Stonz Booties Giveaway!!
Every reader who leaves a comment on the blog from today through February 10 will be entered into a random drawing. Every comment counts as one entry. The winner will receive a pair of Stonz Booties, which Stonz Booties has graciously donated!
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Hi Jennifer-
ReplyDeleteNo need to enter me in the give away, Brenna is way too old for those adorable boots. (darn!)
I had to laugh at your post. I am trying my best to come from a "no" perspective. I have a friend who is SO good at it. I ask her advice quite frequently!
xo
lynn
I have a no son and a yes son...it will interesting to see what Hailey will be. I'm a yes person. I'm currently struggling with that!
ReplyDeleteI'm definitely not a "no" person, but I'm getting better at accepting my limitations. It's definitely difficult at times!
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