Thursday, March 1, 2012

Buddies

Will my baby have friends?  Doesn't every parent worry about that?  I think with any child you worry as a parent whether or not they will have friends.  That they will have a community and a network of people they support and are supported by.  That they will somehow find their niche and "fit in" both at school and in the world at large.

Fortunately for our family, we met the amazing people at The Up Side of Downs before Joey was born.  What they have provided our family with since that first meaning has meant more than we could ever know.  They gave us prenatal information and support.  When I was pregnant with Joey and just wanted to know that other families had walked this road and made it, they were there for me.  Their new parent coordinator met me in person.  Emailed me.  Called me.  They were a life line.    

I see trouble brewing...
Since Joey's birth, we have met numbers of amazing families through the Up Side of Downs.  From the Buddy Walk (July 28, 2012 this year!) Committee to monthly moms' night outs, we have made friends for ourselves and most importantly a network of resources and friends for Joey. 


"Hi, friend!"
We attended our first Up Side of Downs playgroup last week and Joey and his new BFF, Beckett finally met.  We've known Beckett's wonderful parents, Shon and Brittany for almost a year now and it was only last week that we were finally able to get our precious boys together.  And that is when my heart melted and again I found comfort and reassurance in that it would all be good. Joey will have friends (he already does!) and he will find his place in the world.  My job is to just try and provide as many opportunities as possible.  


"Brothers don't shake, brothers gotta hug!"  Tommy Boy

This organization has been a source of information, education and advocacy.  They serve the greater area of Northeast Ohio and we feel so blessed to have this extended group of family and friends.  From Beckett to the super duo (you may know them from the Summit County billboards or their feature article in the Akron Beacon Journal) twins, Casey and Conner, we have made some amazing friends and we have found incredible support in this journey.  For that, we are eternally grateful.  


Which friends are you grateful for?


Whoa, Joey!  Not cool to pull your BFF's hair!

Friends
From here.

Sunday, February 26, 2012

Actors With Down Syndrome Featured in "Entertainment Weekly"

He is probably one of the most popular Oscar hosts.




We definitely enjoy Billy Crystal and his humor on Oscar night.  But that's not why I rushed out to buy this week's issue of Entertainment Weekly.


This is why I went to four different stores to find it...




And, wow.  It did not disappoint!  Kudos to writer, Lynette Rice who wrote an outstanding and insightful article.


Lauren Potter


The article highlights many actors who have Down syndrome, but focuses on Jamie Brewer, Lauren Potter, Chris Burke and Luke Zimmerman.


Lauren Potter's mom, Robin, is quoted as saying, "I think back 21 years ago, when the doctor told me my baby had Down syndrome.  There was a little mourning period inside me. No ballet, no proms, no weddings.  I'll never sit with her while she's delivering a baby.  But she's gone to every prom.  She's danced since she was 3.  She's on a hit TV show.  She speaks in front of people all around the country.  She's far surpassed any dreams.  They're different dreams, but they're amazing dreams."


While Potter discusses playing a high school cheerleader on Glee, she says her experiences growing up and attending public schools were far different at home.  "The typical kids would pick on me, like, 'What does she have, Down syndrome?'" recalls Potter; her eyes tearing up at the memory.  "At my old school, they pushed me and made me eat sand.  I was bruised, beat down and they make me eat sand.  I was little back then."  


It's hard to read about this and yet I look at these amazing actors and am so grateful both of my boys will see role models with Down syndrome on television.


Jamie Brewer


Luke Zimmerman



Chris Burke


One of my favorite lines from the article was, "In a time when color-blind casting is no longer a new concept, Brewer and her peers want the chance to audition for any role Hollywood has to offer."  


It's an incredibly well-written 7-page article devoted totally to actors who have Down syndrome that provides both touching insights as well as the realistic challenges that these actors face.  It highlights their accomplishments (Lauren Potter is serving on the Committee for People With Intellectual Disabilities for the White House, Jamie Brewer is a motivational speaker within the DS community, Luke Zimmerman volunteers at a local courthouse and Chris Burke serves as a goodwill ambassador for the National Down Syndrome Society) and showcases their various roles in popular shows.


What a powerful and wonderful showcase of these actors.  Not only are they hard at work doing what they love the most, but they are also each advocates for themselves and everyone else who has Down syndrome.   They are showing the world people who happen to have an extra chromosome are more like everyone else than they are different.  


Have you bought your copy of Entertainment Weekly?  I hope so!  My next email is to thank them for their insightful, respectful and awesome article on Actors With Down Syndrome. 


I am now going to be a proud Entertainment Weekly subscriber. 



Wednesday, February 22, 2012

An Amelia Update

Sometimes I write and I think that perhaps I am the only person out there reading what I've put down.  That is why your comments and emails are so encouraging.  I also love it when people come up to me and say they read the blog.  Because of Joey's extra chromosome we have met so many amazing people and we have learned so much.  He has made us better parents, better humans-- better people.  Some people say, "The blog must be such good therapy for you."  I guess I never thought of it that way.  I just love to write and to research and so the blog seemed to be a good fit.  Since having Joey I have also become passionate about spreading information and awareness about Down syndrome.  Joey's life has taught us so much about life and living that I hope his struggles as well as his triumphs can help inspire others.  


Speaking of inspiring others, one of my friends asked the other day, "What happened to Amelia?"  You may remember, back in January, a little girl who has Wolf-Hirschhorn was denied a kidney transplant partially in part because she was considered "mentally retarded." 


I am so excited to tell you that CHOP apologized to Amelia and her family.  Here is the whole story as reported by News Medical.



By Dr Ananya Mandal, MD
Children's Hospital of Philadelphia has issued an apology to the parents of Amelia Rivera, a disabled three-year-old girl who, according to her parents, was initially denied a chance at a kidney transplant because she is “mentally retarded.”

In a statement released jointly with Joe and Chrissy Rivera today, a hospital official also promised to review the way the hospital handles such cases. And Amelia's possible transplant is now under consideration, as her parents have previously reported.

Amelia has a genetic disorder called Wolf-Hirschhorn syndrome. It causes intellectual delays, seizures and other health problems - and in her case has led to a kidney condition that could kill her in six months to a year, her parents say. They say they hope to find a family member or other living volunteer to donate the organ.

Michael Apkon, senior vice president and chief medical officer said, “As an organization, we regret that we communicated in a manner that did not clearly reflect our policies or intent and apologize for the Riveras' experience.” He added, “While we can unequivocally state that we do not disqualify transplant patients on the basis of intellectual ability... this event underscores the importance of our responsibility to effectively communicate with families.”

This is the first direct statement the hospital has made about the case, which became an online cause for tens of thousands of people after Chrissy Rivera blogged about a meeting with a doctor and social worker there. She wrote that the doctor came to the meeting with the words “mentally retarded” and “brain damage” highlighted on two pieces of paper and insisted that Amelia's mental delays made her ineligible for a transplant.


In today's statement, the Riveras say, “Despite an unfortunate encounter a few weeks ago, we hold The Children's Hospital of Philadelphia in high regard. We've had a three year relationship with the hospital and are pleased with the care that Amelia has received.” If their daughter can be “seen as Amelia, and not as a diagnosis of her mental abilities” it may help other families, they say.


The Riveras
The hospital said that no decision had been made on whether the surgery would be performed. “We are completely committed to the careful review of our processes and written material to ensure that we are sensitive to the needs of all families,” Apkon continued, “including the specific needs of families of children with disabilities.”




Sending prayers and love to Amelia on this first day of Lent.


Happy Wednesday!